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Apr.12.2014
I lost my best friend, Peggy to cancer in December of 2009. Although it’s a wound that will never heal I feel her near me and speak to her often. As Jack Lemon said, “Death is the end of a life, not a relationship.” We were friends for almost 60 years, since we were children growing up, in a small...
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Apr.05.2014
A recent article in the Huffington Post by Evie Blad posted on April 4th and coming from Education Week is something near and dear to my heart, More States Are Requiring Sex-Abuse Training in Schools.  If you wish to read the article in its entirety, see: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/04...
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Mar.28.2014
 In my ongoing search to find ways to help sexually abused children, rarely a day passes that I don’t read an article on that subject.  Today I came across one published in the New York Times and written by Patrick Adams on March 18, 2014 titled, Can One of Africa’s Most Powerful Women...
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Mar.22.2014
 Pakistan is on my mind frequently, especially the fate of the children. We have two Lamplighter Movement chapters there, one in Islamabad and one in Sndh. I know that both chapters struggle with helping victims of child abuse and trying to keep their chapters going.  One of the most...
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Mar.15.2014
When we were little, our parents made all of our decisions for us.  We just assumed they were the right ones. Unfortunately, the largest percent of parents do not make healthy choices. They, no doubt, did not have healthy choices made for them as this appears to be a generational problem. In...
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Mar.08.2014
How many times have I thought of how much I loved my father? How many times have I thought of how much I hated him? I’m not the only one with this conflicted problem. Many survivors of incest talk about what a difficulty this is in their lives, especially if their parental perpetrator is still...
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Mar.01.2014
This topic is probably the most uncomfortable subject matter in the field of child sexual abuse that I have ever written about; it is also one of the most requested. Like many others, whenever I hear of this type of abuse I want to throw up, block out images and decide everyone who ever said this...
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Feb.22.2014
When I was ten my mother and father had their fifth child, a little girl named Jeanne.  Mom must have been tired of raising kids. She’d had four in four years and then took a break until Jeanne was born nine years later.  I think she must have started saying no to my dad after that fourth...
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Feb.15.2014
I am angry. I recently read the following report in an online newsletter called “The Conversation” http://theconversation.com/philippines-webcam-child-abuse-arrests-come-after-decades-of-exploitation-and-inequality-22128. It details the Philippines webcam child abuse arrests that came after decades...
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Feb.08.2014
 At birth, we were given a promise. That promise contained joy, serenity, optimism, the achieving of all our goals and dreams and many other blessings. No one was born bad. No one was born neurotic, fearful, suicidal, depressed or addicted to anything. We were born pure and whole; we were good...
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Feb.01.2014
Here we are at my favorite stage in REPAIR. Insight is one of those under-rated but brilliant words. It means (for those who aren’t regular readers of Webster), the act or result of apprehending the inner nature of things or of seeing intuitively. This quality brings peace, promotes happiness and...
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Jan.25.2014
Understanding is the key; acceptance is the door As we move across that Bridge of Recovery, the skills we used in Process begin to pay off. There are a number of properties of awareness; some of them, Sensibility, Prudence, Knowledge, Visualization, Feeling and Foresight are mentioned in the book...
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Jan.18.2014
The REPAIR program means nothing, even if you have made it through Recognition and Entry, unless you move through the third stage, Process. My best friend Webster says that process is a series of action or operations conducing to an end. Here is where we hit the details of this program. If you made...
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Jan.10.2014
Those of us who have been through recovery from child sexual abuse can all relate to that first heart thumping moment when, despite having acknowledged to ourselves that we were indeed victims of this horrendous childhood trauma, we had no idea where to go next. It was like standing on the edge of...
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Jan.03.2014
Happy New Year to all of my devoted readers.  I so very much appreciate you taking the time to read my ‘scribblings’. I apologize for being absent the last two weekends. I spent them with my HUGE family in the Los Angeles area. We had a great time and I hope that your holiday was as good as...
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